If you haven’t fully mourned an ex, allow the process to begin. Instead of binding yourself to this person with anger, try giving yourself a week to “memorialize” him. Create a small altar, write a gratitude list thanking him for the gifts that he brought into your life—even if they were simply lessons that taught you about yourself. In Jewish culture, it’s custom to “Sit Shivah” when someone dies. This is a seven-day period dedicated to mourning. Consider adapting this for your own letting go process.

A massive decluttering mission is due on every level. You’re ready to release outmoded attitudes, possessions, and ways of life that no longer suit you. Start adopting in healthy routines as well—ones that feed your soul. You could get serious about a yoga practice, developing your psychic powers with a teacher, or delving into an artistic medium (likely as part of a collaborative project).

You’ll also learn to create and navigate through healthy boundaries with people. Saying “no” BEFORE you snap with resentment can save you loads of relationship drama. You often put up an unscale-able wall with people on first meeting, which can be intimidating. Then, once they’re past the gates, you’re a total pushover. Learn to balance these extremes, and you’ll have a much easier flow of give and take with the ones you love. When this phase ends on October 6, 2012, Saturn heads into Scorpio. You’ll want to leave all your demons behind you so you can embrace the powerful phase of wisdom and growth that lies next.