Intense Scorpio is the sign of extremes, and breakups bring out this side of you. You absolutely *hate* to get attached to your mates, because you know that once you do, it's permanent. As a result, you can go for years in a committed relationship without ever opening your heart.
Ironically, it often takes a breakup for you to realize how much you loved your partner -- and to show it. Scorpio is signified by the Phoenix, a mythic creature that rises from the flames of total destruction. You may subconsciously destroy your own relationship just to see what remains after the demolition. You only trust what survives...so if you find some feelings in the rubble, you declare it true love.
Unfortunately, your partner may have tired of the power struggle by then, and moved on. If only people understood how to read between the lines of your complicated twist on love. Perhaps this is why so many Scorpios date each other.
Stinging Scorpio, if you've been bitten by the breakup bug, here's a little balm for your pain:
Find something else to obsess over.
Admit it, you've got a talent for obsessing. In work, your detail-oriented nature serves you well. Post-breakup, this painful pining just gets you stuck. Several Scorpios we've known have driven friends crazy by endlessly obsessing over exes. If they were at a bar, a picnic, a funeral, it didn't matter. They'd charm their way into grabbing someone's attention, and that poor soul was held captive for hours. Your best bet? Channel that obsession into your career. Write a book, take a class, record a CD, buy some real estate. These are the moments when your career can truly flourish.
Take a break from dating.
Scorpio is the "sex sign," and your emotions flow through your pants (sorry, there's just no gentler way of saying it). Escaping through flings and hookups is the worst thing you can do. Unfortunately, casual affairs don't exist in your all-or-nothing vocabulary. That said, you do need to release physical energy, so find a way to do it. Our Scorpio friend Andy Sway expanded his energy healing business. Another Scorpio went on a rock-climbing adventure.
Avoid extreme behavior.
As the sign of extremes, you may drown your emotions in unhealthy behaviors, like overeating, substance abuse or worse. You can't stuff down your emotions with chocolate, or wash them away with adult beverages. If you find yourself going to dangerous places, get help. Call an anonymous helpline (Scorpios are secretive), join a MySpace group, pore through self-help books.
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